When you are moving away from a genuine relationship based on love and affection, you might be able to do it physically. But to mentally make up your mind, you will need more time. It is not an easy task to mentally get ready for that. In a relationship, your mind changes from being single to sharing everything with a partner. This is very special when it comes to emotional sharing. So, the reason falls into a dependent status and gets addicted to the life plan the reason already creates for you and your partner. But when the other person moves away from your life, you start feeling like you no longer exist without that person. If you get that person back, you feel relief and more confidence. This is a never-ending addiction, and that has no end. It is so powerful and dominant that it can lead you to destruction and end your life. It is a never-ending cycle.
Addiction makes your mind work differently. It builds up a relationship within the brain that will link your emotions and feelings to all the daily activities you carry on through an internal chemical process. So, when the mind realizes the bitter truth that the partner is no longer there, the whole process gets disturbed and creates deep grief in yourself.
If you explain it further, the addiction the mind has created makes you realize you have no future if you lose your partner. Habit makes you think you are no longer the person you were before the relationship. So when a relationship is over, the reactions of the mind against the situation make you sad and depressed. These reactions are mostly the tactics the reason promotes to make you get closer to the partner again.
So, making your mind accept that life no longer needs the person who left you out is what you call getting rid of the breakup pain. But if the partner or you can solve the issues between you, makeup can continue the relationship without a problem. You may encounter ups and downs while you move forward, but if you can solve them between the two of you, the mind can handle the above situation of a breakup.
The bond between two opposite genders is not only love and affection. There are so many reasons that affect a relationship. The way of talking, the method of treating one another, the protection and respect they receive from each other, and sexual attraction are crucial elements that lay the base for an affectionate relationship between two people. Many interpret it as love.
A female mind looks for more protection, respect, and other related emotions in a relationship. They tend to follow them so much more than a male mind. The female mind gets addicted to a relationship very soon based on these reasons. But a male sense gives priority to sexuality. So, a sudden breakup may create a sexual addiction in a male and anxiety in them.
Addiction in a relationship is regular.
Agreement
The main thing you need to recover from a breakup is agreement. It compares the negative and the positive results you received from this comparison. But how negative your attitude about the relationship is, your mind tries to bring more positivity about it. Even if that person is 995 toxic, the reason highlights that 1% makes you feel you are mistaken, and your actions made you lose the partner. It is a false alarm and a very temporary mental status. Whatever the type of person who left you is, the mind tries to bring that person back to you, make things fall into the expected positions, and drive you back to normal. That is entirely a mental trick. When you come to this stage, you will feel this even if the partner has wronged you immensely.
Below are some of those negative points that you will think of yourself.
- You are the person to be blamed for the current situation.
- You rushed into it. You could have been more patient.
- You lost your partner.
- You will never find such a person again.
- Whatever happened, that person loved you and treated you well.
- Someone else may take your place soon. And the partner will be satisfied and happy with it.
You will unknowingly feel these. And it is called the blindness. It is a trick created by your mind. As mentioned above, you have to conclude what kind of an impact you had while in the relationship with the partner, whether negative or positive.
You have to remember clearly:
- If you suffered a lot
- If you lost focus on your education
- If you had to stop all that you did with happiness and contentment,
- If you were insulted and felt shamed,
- If you only received a mental breakdown instead of appreciation for all that you did with good intention
- If you did not receive the love that you wanted
- If the partner’s family background hurts you
Suppose you have a significant portion of the above experiences in your relationship, and it affects your regular lifestyle in the long term. In that case, you are in a relationship that you should put an end to.
Then what will happen to all the good memories and moments of love and understanding you received from your partner?
Even on the legal platform, you will be guilty if your case is analyzed without a reasonable doubt. There is a minimal possibility that the guilty will be correct because the lawyer of the guilty party looks at the point without a reasonable doubt. Usually, it is not considered a decision as it has minimal effect.
In a breakup, the same theory applies. We must consider our sanity and mental ease when coming to a conclusion and a decision. We should consider mental relief, the future, and other related factors when deciding. Even if you have some plus points in the relationship, you need to consider the positive and negative things together and evaluate them well before deciding. The decision is incorrect if you think only about the relationship’s positive or good side.
Even if you receive several calls and messages or you cry your heart out for days, you will not in any way come to the correct decision if you do not come to a specific reform in your mind about the relationship. If this does not happen, you will take time to eliminate the toxic relationship. This shows how people who have grieved for years are born.
How much pain you are in does not matter if you have the conclusion, plan, self-confidence, and trust about yourself and the training. You should know your value. You need to stop acting from your heart.
You could argue and come to the correct conclusion, and you definitely can.
Written by,
Nandimal Edirisooriya